The first steps are typically the most important; in wedding planning at least. 

CONGRATULATIONS!!! It is the classic response when a soon-to-be married person reveals that he/she is engaged. That loving, mate finally got down on one knee and asked for your hand in marriage.  All those days at age five of picking flowers from the garden for a bouquet and walking in mom’s high heels and dad’s oversized t-shirt down the immense hallways of the childhood home are finally going to pay off.  Many married people will say that planning a wedding can be a nightmare.  But what if it didn’t have to be a nightmare? 

What if it could be painless, affordable, and most importantly fun?

Planning a wedding alone leaves room for error.  Sure, there are free checklists, to-do lists, spreadsheets, and templates online but just the sound of that bores most people.   So where are some good places to start then?  [1]The first decisions the newly engaged couple makes regarding their wedding are by nature the hardest—the further along into planning, the easier things get.

First, talk to the family (that includes the soon-to-be family too).  More than likely the couple has had this day planned out in their minds five years old, but it is important to know if there are any other big and helpful ideas out there that are important to the family members.  This will also be a good time to discuss the wedding budget which is crucial for the rest of planning. 

Second, find friends who will stay up late pinning exciting ideas, beautiful dresses, suits, and romantic pictures.  (For those who did not know, Pinterest is an amazing place for wedding ideas. is another great and resourceful site)[2]This is the time to decide if you’re having a formal wedding, a casual affair, or a theme wedding.

The dark side of the ‘pinning opportunity’ is the overwhelming pinning opportunity.  Perhaps the ‘rustic chic’ theme is appealing, but then a picture of a tall, dark and handsome man appears wearing a black tux and red rose boutonniere and suddenly the wedding theme changes.  Take the time to get the overwhelming excitement out of the system and then make a choice that fits the couple best. 

What is the true representation of the two individuals? 

Lastly, once it comes time to start making decisions stemming from all those late night pinning parties, find a business that will help stick with the wedding vision. 

Southwest Vows is a great example of a business that helps brides stay on track.  Reverend Jo Howard says, “[3]No couple should have to rush in and out of a wedding service and feel like they missed something.  If they take the time in the beginning, they will flourish in the end and have a better-rounded day.  They will be not rushed, pulled in 100 directions or too nervous to cherish the moment”.  

They help make sure that the couple’s big day seems as simple as prior “rehearsals” walking down that childhood hallway at five years old.   Once those important first steps are out of the way, the real fun can begin. 



[3] Quote from (Reverend Jo McKittrick)